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Top Tips for Re-Building Your Confidence After Bullying

When you are being bullied, things like self-esteem and confidence take the biggest knock. We know this from the years of research we have undertaken in our most recent Annual Bullying Survey and from a decade of talking to young people like you.

We know people internalise the mean comments and try to rationalise why we might’ve been excluded, singled out and picked on.

Eventually, you come to the conclusion that… “it must be me 😳”

In doing so, we convince ourselves that there’s something wrong with us and before you know it, you’ve got yourself a whole bunch of social anxiety, confidence issues and low self-esteem to contend with.

The worst thing about this is that it follows us around for ages as we get older and it’s difficult to shake. Even after the bullying has ended or been resolved, we’re left feeling low and vulnerable.

What can we do about this?

The answer is simple but not always so easy to achieve: we can learn to love ourselves.

The experts at Ditch the Label put their heads together to come up with 50 things you can do to give yourself a little boost after being bullied – try to tick off every single one and we guarantee you’ll start feeling better about yourself.

50 tips to rebuild your confidence after bullying

Try some of these out:

  1. Tell yourself that you are enough
  2. Change up your hairstyle
  3. Watch your favourite movie
  4. Talk to that mate that always makes you giggle
  5. Run faster than you’ve ever run before
  6. Make something you’ve never made before
  7. Shout out a window really loud about how amazing you are (we dare you)
  8. Help a mate
  9. Spend time with a puppy
  10. Write a list of all your best qualities
  11. Write a list of all the good things in your life – add to it every day
  12. Do something that you know you’re really good at
  13. Accept a compliment by saying ‘thank you’
  14. Unfollow/block all the things on social media which make you feel worthless
  15. Ask for help more
  16. Build something
  17. Complete a video game
  18. Find a sense of community (*cough hint cough*)
  19. Say yes more to fun/new things
  20. Learn a martial art
  21. Take up a new sport
  22. Literally say nice things to yourself in the mirror (a bit cringe at first, but trust us, it works 😉)
  23. Be kinder to the people closest to you
  24. Read about people who have similar experiences to you
  25. Talk to people who have similar experiences to you
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  1. Treat yourself once in a while
  2. Allow yourself to laugh more
  3. Be outside more
  4. Hang out with people who make you feel good
  5. Join a forum (*cough hint cough*)
  6. Understand that the reality is, no one has it easy
  7. Be creative
  8. Practise mindful colouring
  9. Understand that it takes time
  10. Accept who you are and own it
  11. Learn about ways to stand up for yourself
  12. Learn to say no
  13. Hang out with a kitten😍
  14. Discover a new band
  15. Start your own band
  16. Be more honest
  17. Meditate
  18. Be critical of everything you read online
  19. Go shopping
  20. Cook a meal for your family/friends
  21. Join a club
  22. Organise activities for friends/family
  23. Celebrate your achievements no matter how big or small
  24. List the things you love about yourself
  25. List the things you are most grateful for

Got any to add? Stick em’ in Community – we want to hear how you stay fabulous 😍 

Or let us know on Twitter: @DitchtheLabel

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